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She Thinks I am a Nut…

Posted: September 26, 2012 in mindset, preparing, Uncategorized
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She thinks I am a nut…
Getting your Wife on board with your preps

Before I get hate mail from our female readers/students, I am specifically using a husband prepper and a not-so wife because of two reasons. Because, this is a question that I most commonly get from men; and, because it is the only perspective, to which, I can personally attest.

Now, if one of our female readers/students would like to write or rewrite this article from a woman’s perspective; I would be happy to publish it. C’mon Ladies, let’s hear it.

Now my confession is that I have an amazing wife who not only tolerates my craziness; but, sometimes, encourages it. But, we still have a different view of preparation and their priorities. So, when we are discussing the what/how and most importantly when/why; we have to understand the reason that the other person may, or may not, want to pursue a particular prep.

So, for those of you who struggle with a disinterested, or even hostile, spouse when the topic of preps comes up. I suggest thinking, and speaking, about it from her perceptive.

Such as (these are examples, feel free to add your own in the comments):

Skill – Bugging Out
Husband – You want a backpack full of survival stuff, to go live in the woods if TSHTF.
Wife – She wants a backpack full of camping stuff, so that the family can spend time together on the weekends.

Skill – Food Storage
Husband – You want 3-6 months of food storage to survive the natural or man-made disaster if TSHTF
Wife – She wants to get a good deal on soup/water/juice/etc. when it goes on sale

Skill – Bulk food storage
Husband – You want bulk food stored up for when TSHTF
Wife – She wants to start cooking more meals at home to save money and eat healthier

Skill – Gardening
Husband – You want to be able to grow you own food when TSHTF
Wife – She is concerned about GMO food and wants to eat organic without having to pay Whole foods prices

Skill – Guns/Hunting
Husband – You want to be able to protect and feed your family when TSHTF
Wife – She thinks it is a good opportunity for you spend time with the kids.

Gear – Bikes
Husband – You need transportation when the EMP wipes out the cars or generally TSHTF
Wife – It is a good way for the family to spend time together and get exercise.

Gear – Bug Out Bag, Water filters, tents, stoves, etc..
Husband – Items that you need in your Bug out bag (see Bugging Out)
Wife – (see Bugging Out)

Gear – generator
Husband – You need your own source of electricity when the grid fails or TSHTF
Wife – We need to save the cold food in the freezer if the power goes out.

“if you believe you can; or, you believe you can’t…you are probably right.”

It is an old saying that is directly applicable to the warrior’s life. I began thinking about this after watching a friend of mine teach a basic handgun course.

In his preamble, he talked about that; while he hoped that he would never have to use his gun, he was willing.

The question is: would he really?

I have heard other instructors say something very similar, including several that have already walked that path. And, every time I can’t help but wonder whether they really mean it, or is it just Politically Correct BS.

My thought was that we are too often concerned how others might perceive us, and so we add these type of “hedges” to our conversations. The problem is, these comments can begin to program our reactions.

So if you “say” that you “hope you don’t have to use your gun” only two possibilities exist: 1. You really believe it; or 2. You are lying because of what people might think.

If the first, then when you are faced with that critical moment, you will hesitate. You really believe that you do not want to shoot anyone, so you won’t.

If the second, then you run the risk of programming the wrong response. We are all familiar with the what/if scenarios that we play out in our heads throughout our day. Your attempt at being more “socially acceptable” can get you killed.

Instead of excusing your abilities and beliefs, learn to embrace and explain them. More on that later…